If we can remember that our response to others is essential, we can realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand.
In life, there will always be times when we are affected by the actions of another person. When this happens, we often receive an apology. More often than not, we say, “It’s alright,” or ” It’s okay,” and by saying this, we are allowing, accepting, and giving permission for the behavior to happen again. When we say “thank you” or “I accept your apology,” we are forced to sit in our feelings rather than ignore them.
Many of us feel that it is easier to brush off how we feel than to express our discomfort with something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the best thing to do, it puts us into an eternal pattern of behavior; since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and time again. By doing this, we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can end this karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person that we accept their request for forgiveness; often, a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship, however, we need to gently and with compassion express our innermost concerns about what has transpired. By taking a deep breath and calling upon the deepest parts of our spirit, we can usually find the right words to say and verbalize them in a way that lets the other person recognize the consequences of what they have done.
If we can remember that our response to others is essential, we can realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand. And when we react in a way that engenders a more significant amount of honesty and openness, we will establish a more positive and empowering way of being and interacting with others.